Every person has his own cross
Everyone has their own cross - this phrase is used quite often, not always giving it a religious coloring. The life ways of people are so individual and unpredictable that sometimes it seems: this is only possible in the cinema. And how can a person stand such tests?
The instrument of the death of Christ and the salvation of mankind
Christ showed the first example of carrying the cross to humanity. After his incarnation, the hardest trials awaited him: the hatred of the Pharisees, the betrayal of Judah and the painful death. By the way, at that time crucifix was considered the lowest and shameful death.
It turns out that Christ, not guilty of anything, voluntarily endured all humiliation in order to save people from original sin. Therefore, the cross is often associated with the instrument of salvation and suffering at the same time, and without a decent transfer of sorrow, the Kingdom of Heaven remains inaccessible to many.
If God sends you tests, then you will endure them
When everything in a person’s life is smooth, smooth and good, no one says that this is his way, and when illnesses and misunderstandings come,losses, everyone remembers what's the matter.
Sometimes it seems to a person that he cannot withstand all the tests that have befallen him. But Orthodoxy says that each person is given exactly as much as he is able to endure.
Repeatedly I was convinced that if there were too many things, sorrows, experiences, God would either remove individual tasks from us, or send people who would help us to cope, calm down, cheer, pray. The Gospel indicates the name of the person who helped carry the Cross of the Savior. It was Simon of Cyrene. Parents, spouses, friends, and most importantly - God help the person in the most complicated situations.
It is easy to talk about sorrows and experiences when you are all happy and rosy. But only those who have verified by their own experience that the loss of relatives, serious illnesses and problems at work are only trials, and not the end of life, can really comfort and sympathize.
Superficial observation of people usually leads to subjective conclusions: it’s hard for me, and for others everything is so simple! Before you say again that from the third entrance, Nadya is presented on a saucer with a blue border, and Kostya from the fourth floor thanks to her parents is provided 200 years ahead, stop and think.How do you know what is happening in the soul of these people? Do they survive some deep shocks?
Each is given a weapon of salvation - a parable
There are many interesting parables about the need for everyone to carry their cross. Many people know the story of one husband, who allegedly very strongly grumbled that God gave him tests beyond his strength. Then the Lord allowed him to take in return another item.
The man decided to take a closer look. He came to one - beautiful, tall, from quality material. He sparkled in the sun like gold. But the object turned out to be so heavy that it was impossible to lift it, let alone carry it. The next one was more modest, not so large, but it shone like silver. The man picked it up and staggered. I realized that I could not do it. I tried the third one - not so huge, it was made of copper. That's just cold, slippery and still heavy ...
I tried many others, until I found a wooden object in the corner. Modest, neat, not defiant. Threw on his shoulder - what we need! I was delighted, and only then I realized that this was ... his instrument of salvation.
It is easy to think that the paths of rulers, people in power, or businessmen are so serene and attractive.Their gold and silver crosses may be too heavy and large for us.
Wonderful bridge, or How not to fall into the abyss?
There is also a very wise song that everyone should gratefully accept all the tests that fall in his way. They are not necessarily sent to a man for his sins. Shifting tests helps a person to be cleansed from sin, humble himself, and seek God's will.
The plot is this: a person carries his cross, which, according to tradition, seems to him too heavy. It is about to fall. What to do? He decides on a bold act - cut off part of the burden he has prepared and go on. He did, it seems everything is fine. But at some point he comes to the abyss. One can only cross to the other side if one uses one’s cross as a thin bridge. But woe! He was too short. If at one time the person had not shortened him, he would not have appeared in the abyss.
So it is with people who grumble on their way of life, the injustice of the Most High against them. If in due time they humbly carried all that had fallen to them in life, they would have quietly reached the line - death - and moved to the other side, where prepared monasteries for the righteous awaited them.
If a person tries to alleviate suffering, to avoid what he has to go through in order to learn a life lesson (learn to love, endure, humble himself, be content with little, etc.), then during the border crossing he may fall into the abyss of hell, as he repeatedly fell into the abyss of sin and did not repent.
Therefore, we must answer only for the results of our own lives and the consequences of our actions. How do we know for sure what is going on in the soul of another person? But his own conscience repeatedly denounced. Moreover, your relationship with God is one mystery, and the fellowship of another person with the Lord is already his secret. It is hidden from our eyes, as well as the way God responds to an individual person, with what benefits or sorrows he rewards.
A remarkable story can also be found in the life of Anthony the Great, who asked God to reveal to him: why some live in poverty and others in such luxury that would be enough for many poor people, why some are healthy and others are constantly ill.
But the Lord said that Anthony was not thinking about that. You must look at your own life, try to carry your cross, and not worry why anyway. Man cannot understand how God works. This is the biggest secret.