How to live this short life to the full
"The goal is to die with memories, not dreams." - Unknown author
When we held hands under that big oak tree, I never felt more surrounded by love. It was at the same time the most wonderful and misty moment in my life when I said: "I agree."
It really happened. I married my best friend.
We decided to marry a year after my father's husband, Ian, was diagnosed with cancer. After nine months of planning, the day of our beautiful wedding came. And he was there.
We drank, sang and danced all night. Three days later, my father-in-law accompanied us at the airport when we went on our honeymoon. We so eagerly waited for this week-long vacation to discuss the wedding and rest from the madness of the past nine months.
But after only twenty-four hours we sat on the plane that flew back to England. Ian died suddenly.
After a week of tears, hugs and time spent with the family, we could not realize it. Even after months, we never began to realize.
I lived with my mother-in-law and father-in-law for several years before. Ian was a man who literally made me laugh every day. But perhaps the most important thing is that he was a man who always told us to follow our dreams, to travel around the world and to do what makes us happy. It is hard to admit that he is no more.
I have always admired his view of life. And although he was no longer here, he left us some rules of life, which I will always follow.
1. Always spend time with people.
Life can be loaded. Sometimes even too busy. But one thing that Ian always did so naturally was to spend time with other people. He knew them well or not, he always had time to talk. He recognized people; he shared stories with them. But most of all he loved to listen to their stories, and he loved to listen to people from all walks of life.
Everywhere, wherever he went, people were glad to see him. Even if it was only a week-long vacation in Spain, you could be sure that he would come back with a bunch of funny stories from locals and people he met.He had an aura that simply attracted people and made them want to stop and talk to him.
So what have I learned from this? Yes, life is loaded. But she will pass you by, if you let her. Sometimes it’s worth setting aside an extra five minutes to stop and talk to someone. Take time to get to know them. Communication with other people brings a tremendous sense of satisfaction.
You never know who you might meet. You never know how people will affect your life. And you have no idea how you can change someone else’s life with just one conversation.
The only thing that upsets me and which I try not to do too often these days is reading the news. Read about how people relate to each other, especially considering what is happening at the moment. Just communicating with people with whom you usually do not talk, or a new acquaintance can create a miracle to restore your faith in humanity. There are really amazing people!
My husband, like his father, is very easy to get along with people. When we drunk talked with a taxi driver one night, we discovered that he was a Buddhist and was from India.But this is not the most important part.
When he stopped near the house, we talked with him about travels and the desire to visit India someday. He took his wallet in his hands and said: “What is this? Money? This is just a piece of paper. Life is too short to constantly chase after money. You must see the world and make the most of it. ”
The conversation with this taxi driver was short, but he pursued me for days. He made us so happy. We even took his business card, and therefore we could turn to him the next time we needed a taxi and perhaps a motivational conversation about life!
We always knew that we would travel again, and while we understood his opinion about money, which is only a small amount of paper, we really need it to begin to realize the dream, even if it is simply to book a ticket. one way!
After this conversation, we were excited and began to look for ways to travel on a budget. It turns out that traveling is not a voucher can cost much cheaper than you think.
2. Journey soothes the soul
Ian loved to travel.During his life, he visited incredible places and was always in search of the next adventure. As I said, he loved to get to know new people and try different lifestyles. He was always the first to seek adventure for himself and his wife, and they have some really incredible stories in their piggy bank.
He always encouraged us to travel, and we can’t wait to pack our bags and go on our biggest adventure. And wherever we go, there will always be a bit of it with us.
I learned that you must travel every time, always and wherever and whenever you can — and you don’t need to be rich to do it! You can consider an exchange offer or simply save up by reducing daily expenses.
No matter what you decide to do, always use the opportunity to learn new cultures and allow them to influence you. When I'm gray and old, I want to look back and know that I have really great memories and events to share.
3. Always be yourself
This is where Ian was particularly good. No matter what happened, he was always shamelessly Ian.He did not waste time in vain, worrying about observing propriety or traditional rituals. He was the life and soul of many companies, and this was in no small measure because he was just happy to be himself.
That is what really resonates with me. I know that I worry too much. Sometimes I worry too much about what people think about me. Not always. But I know that I allow other people's opinions to influence my actions and mood from time to time.
Most of us have to work harder to be ourselves. There are many people who, just like me, know that sometimes they can be held back by the opinions of others. But we are all human, and I really think that people love you more because you are just yourself. And it's good that you can never please everyone, but you will establish more genuine connections by being yourself.
4. Life is really too short not to live it to the fullest, so take a moment
And, despite everything he did with his time on earth, he left too soon. He was fifty-three years old, and he had an incredible love of life. On our wedding day, despite the bad, Ian was one of the last men left on the dance floor, he took off his shirt and waved it over his head.If you didn't know that he was sick, you would never have thought about it.
Perhaps this is a hackneyed phrase, but I believe in its truth: you really have to live every day as if it were your last day. The past two years have taught me that you never know when your time will come.
Like everyone who suffers from anxiety, I can often get upset or worried about things that I should not pay attention to. I'm trying to learn to let go. And there is something that I want you to take out of it - life is too short to worry about what other people will think about you.
Always be grateful for the little things, because one day they can become something more. Enjoy every moment with your loved ones and do not be unhappy, because what is the point? Cherish every hug, take every compliment and grab every opportunity to make someone else smile.